Tuesday, February 2, 2010
I'm really excited to run my 2 shops, to study (God, seldom thing! Alhamdulillaah), to be the Head of R&D division,,,to be with or without my friend,,,to be with my bf,,,even to be at home and spend time with my family :)
Btw, February 10th is Ridzki's bday,,,^^
.........hmmmm........what would it be...............
and sista, if u wanna know how to feel like i feel right now,,,i think i kinda know the answer (beside of course there is always be an X factor)...
the answer is,,,
i'm happy because i'm doing anything that makes me happy.
so what if the condition not makes u happy?
oh, yeah. If u know me well,,then u know that the things that i've mentioned above has made me feel bad, sad, and stressed. But then I tried to accept and love it, find the good things behind it,,and be grateful to the God Almighty whatever u have in this life....i'm sure u have heard the saying :
U can't have anything you love, so just try to love anything u have :)
believe me, it works.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Living on the Edge
Migrant worker refers to people moving from their home country to another to find employment. There are two kinds of migrant workers. First, professional migrant workers, that is people who have skills in particular occupations required by the host country, have recent skilled work experience, have good English and maybe also other language ability, and have completed the other qualifications. The professional migrant workers are high-paid and appreciated both in the home and host country because of their skills and earnings. Second, the low paid migrant workers, who usually work in certain work areas with a relatively low wages, for example, agricultural fields, maid, construction workers, industrial labor, waiter or waitress, and other public sectors. However, the wages promised to them still considered much higher than if they work in the same position in their home country. Among the two kinds of migrant workers, the second one has brought global issues that should be concerned by the world society.
The background of people become low paid migrant workers is the condition in their home country. They come from developing economic, conflicting, or war countries, where the number of people living below the poverty line is keep increasing and job scarcity everywhere. They are forced to seek job opportunities abroad because they think nothing that they can do that could bring enough money if they stay in their home country. There are also pull factors that encourage them to become migrant workers which is the emergence of newly industrialized countries, such as Singapore, Malaysia, Hong Kong, and Taiwan. Workers from lower economic countries such as Indonesia, Philippines, and other South East Asia country are fulfilling the demand for domestic jobs. As we know, the labor supplies in such countries already reach surplus level which they cannot provide the citizen with enough job opportunity.
ILO’s survey about migrant workers in 1997 found that 80 million people are employed out of their country, legal or illegally. They’re come from Africa (20 Million), North America (17 million), Central and South America (12 million), Asia (7 million), the Middle East (9 million), and Europe (30 million). Note that from the developing country such as those in Africa and Asia, the number mostly present low-paid migrant workers. In Asia, Philippines, Indonesia, Myanmar, Afghanistan, Sri Lanka, Thailand, and Vietnam, are the biggest sender of migrant workers. Now, the total amount is being doubled which is approximately reach 192 million. Indonesia itself now has sent 6.5 million of migrant workers.
According to IMF, for most developing countries, the income earned from migrant workers becomes one of the main sources of foreign exchange, Foreign Direct Investment, and flow of individual capital. In 1997, the International Monetary Fund calculate that migrant workers' earning sent back to the home countries accounted for 77 billion dollars, second only to world petroleum exports in international trade monetary flows. In brief, they have contributed a lot to their national economy.
In the other hand, although the sending and the receiving country both really need the migrant workers for the development of each country, they still couldn’t guarantee the protection of the migrant workers’ rights, including the payment, social life, or even with basic human rights laws. For example, between 30% and 40% of Indonesian contract workers in Saudi Arabia, especially women, have been sexually harassed, while 30% do not get their salaries on time and have ever been tortured.
Since the first time people are recruited to be migrant workers, they already taking risks if they face not responsible elements, for instance, an illegal agent. The workers first meet the agent in their village, and because of lack of information about the recruitment process, they are not aware if the agent is an illegal one. These agents did not received regular payment but working on commission based. After they are ready to be sent, the illegal agent provides the migrant workers false travel document. When they’re arrived at the host country, the unfortunate one will be caught by the immigration officers, taken to jail, and then after their guilt are proven, they will be deported to the home country. Moreover, many Indonesian Migrant Workers that have been deported to Indonesia from Malaysia admitted that they often have been whipped and trampled by the prison officers. Legal migrant workers in Asia should not pay administrative and training program, as their incoming wages would be deducted. But those illegal agents charged them before their departure to the host country. This is not only happened in Indonesia or South East Asia, but according to the UN, between 300,000 to 600,000 women are smuggled each year into the European Union and certain Central European countries. The problem is also widespread in Africa and Latin America.
It doesn’t mean that the legal migrant workers or them who slipped off from the immigration officers are already save. The migrant workers continuously became subject of discriminative immigration law, regulation, and social treatment. There is a tendency for some employers in every host country that people whose color, physical appearances, dress, accent or religion are different from the majority in the host country are often subjected to physical violence and other violations of their rights, despite of their legal status. Their working hour are often excessive (more than 12 hour per day), paid in a minimum wages, or even don’t be paid at all. When the workers are in abusive work condition, the illegal agents refuse to help them to find a new employer. The legal ones, sometimes also lose contact with the migrant workers so they can’t help anything. Furthermore, the employers also keep the worker’s passport, working visa, and private belonging so that they can’t escape because it would end as being illegal worker and deportation. The employers, agent, and even the local government defend that those practices aimed to protect their house, family privacy, and workers’ own safety.
The policy in several receiving countries also prevents migrant workers to have their reproductive, marriage and sexual rights. Some of the Indonesian Migrant Workers who had pregnancy during contract only have two choices given, abortion or remain working. In reality, abortion is impossible in Saudi Arabia, even on rape pregnancy case. Because the migrant workers want to stay and remain working, they are forced to go through unsafe or illegal abortion. Another example, Singapore government also banned the migrant workers to marry Singaporean.
Not only the workers who exposed to the problem. The host country also accuse workers of bringing them social, economic, and security problem. According to the International Organization for migration (IOM) migrants "are more and more targeted as the scapegoats for all manner of domestic problems facing societies today, particularly unemployment, crime, drugs, even terrorism." In the other hand, the citizen in the home country would be very mad when they heard that their fellow countryman was treated unwell abroad. In Indonesia and Malaysia’s case, this is also one thing that tapered each cynicism to another. Of course not all of Indonesian Migrant Workers do crime and not all of the Malaysian employers torture the workers, but this problem has bring a totem-pro-parte situation which ruined each country’s image.
All of problem mentioned above showed us that the issue are like a tip of an iceberg, that the real problems inside are much more complex with many more stakeholders in it compared to media publication that we saw everyday. To handle these issues, government, ILO, NGO’s, and society themselves should make a resolution that could be implemented soon, but not to forget the long term solution that could bring permanent effect to the condition of migrant workers everywhere in the future.
First, the home country should be courageous to take their low-paid migrant workers home if the host country is considered still don’t be able to treat the workers decently. Of course this should be implemented according to valid statistic that shows the number of bad treatments exposed to the migrant workers from year to year because it shows that there is no effort from the host country to improve the working condition for migrant workers placed there. For the host country, it is already a good step to tighten the immigration control and to deport illegal workers, but surely without torture. Go along with it, the government should increase the amount of job opportunity inside the country and also optimize the amount of workers sent to the other destination country that has a good track record.
Second, the government needs to set higher requirements for people who want to be migrant workers, especially on level of education, work experiences, language ability, and other skill related to the job in the host country. The migrant workers should also become well informed on their rights as worker. In the popular host country like Malaysia and Singapore, the workers from Philippines and Thailand get better treatment from the employer and society because of their education level, English ability, and also the over-all better image than Indonesian workers have. Every host countries are also better to have their own standard and recheck the migrant workers’ qualification because it will prevent disappointment from the employers when they meet the workers. If it’s proven that the migrant workers couldn’t fulfill the qualification, they reserve the right to whether send the workers home or directly put the workers in the training center.
Training centre in the host country, which is a place to educate and prepare the migrant workers with the new culture, traditions, society, and additional skill needed before they are reconciled with their employers and involved in the new place, should be a truly education centre that has a decent facilities. In the reality now, some of the Indonesian Migrant Workers reported that the condition in the training centers in Malaysia and Singapore are like a jail, lack of food, no-running water, with verbal and physical abuses from the training employee. There is one good example, the Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs of Germany supports the teaching of the German language to migrant workers through the intermediary of the association "German for Foreign Workers". Since the establishment of this society in 1974, over 1.2 million foreigners have benefited from such courses in Germany. Since a decent and educative training centre can bring a significant effect to both the workers and employers’ satisfaction, the establishment should be initiated by diplomatic approach and negotiation among the sending and receiving countries.
Next, to prevent employers that still hold the workers after the contract is over, the host country should set in mind and make regulation about the status of the migrant workers which is of course temporary. Countries which view migrants as temporary workers tend to adopt social policies which encourage as many migrants as possible to return to their home countries after completing their work period. We can see one perfect example, Germany again, which does not permit migrants for permanent settlement on entry, and devotes much of its social policy objectives to encouraging voluntary repatriation through the institution of the Coordinating Agency for Promoting the Reintegration of Foreign Workers. Germany participates in a number of bilateral agreements with sending countries, including Greece, Italy, Portugal, and Spain, which aim to improve migrants' chance to get a qualification which will be appreciated and useful in their home country.
The home country’s together with the agencies and NGO’s should continually monitor each legal worker and not to lose contact with them. It’s should be normal if the workers have their own mobile phone and time out of work to socialize. It is also should be normal for the agent to visit maybe routinely or randomly migrant workers just to see their condition. In many major migrant receiving countries in Europe, there are also liaison service between migrant communities and the national authorities. These organizations also provide advice to the government on formulation and implementation of social policy on migration and in some cases can make suggestions for the improvement of related legislation. To take an example, in Norway, a liaison committee was established in 1984 to act as a link between migrants and the national authorities. Those facilities will make the workers feel protected and not alone.
From the law aspect, until now the migrant workers are excluding from the definition of “worker”, so they were not subject to government regulations of minimum wage, working hours, and day off or paid holiday. It happened both in the home and host countries. However, protection of workers’ rights have been declared in many international convention, such as Universal Declaration of Human Rights, The International Covenant on Economic, Social, and Cultural Rights, core convention of the ILO, and The United Nations Convention on the Protection of the Rights of all Migrant Workers and Member of Their Families. The last convention already take into account all the prior convention. The Convention does not create new rights for migrants but aims at guaranteeing equality of treatment, and the same working conditions for both migrants and nationals. The Convention based on the fundamental notion that the migrants should have access to a minimum degree of protection. The Convention declared that legal migrants have the legitimacy to claim more rights than undocumented migrants, but it also stresses that illegal migrants must have their basic human rights respected, like all human beings. The following countries that have ratified the Convention as of are Argentina, Algeria, Azerbaijan, Belize, Bolivia, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Burkina Faso, Cape Verde, Chile, Colombia, East Timor, Ecuador, Egypt, El Salvador, Ghana, Guatemala, Guinea, Honduras, Kyrgyzstan, Lesotho, Libya, Mali, Mauritania, Mexico, Morocco, Nicaragua, Peru, Philippines, Senegal, Seychelles, Sri Lanka, Syria, Tajikistan, Turkey, Uganda, Uruguay, Bangladesh, Comoros, Guinea-Bissau, Paraguay, Sao Tome and Principe, Sierra Leone, Togo, Cambodia, Gabon, Indonesia, Liberia, Serbia and Montenegro. Unfortunately, neither western migrant-receiving state nor other important receiving countries, such as Australia, Arab states of the Persian Gulf, Malaysia, and Singapore have ratified the Convention. It appears that the recognition of qualifications obtained abroad is still far from universally guaranteed. To reduce the number of mistreatment of migrant workers in the host countries, UN, especially ILO and Human Rights Watch should encourage those destination countries to ratify the convention. If law enforcement applied, the existence of migrant workers would bring an optimum benefit not only to individual, but also to the community and country.
In summary, the situation of migrant workers nowadays has been deviated from the original purpose which is “to develop and utilize all possibilities of employment and for this purpose to facilitate the international distribution of manpower and in particular the movement of manpower from countries which have a surplus of manpower to those countries that have a deficiency”. The migrant workers now often become the modern form of slavery that their basic human rights not appreciated at all. All stakeholder related in this issue should take part in the effort to solve the problem, from the beginning process until the time the workers should back to their country. For the home country, workers’ education standard, the taking back of the workers from problematic country, and continually monitor the workers abroad could be alternative solutions. Besides that, in the host country, the standard also should exist to prevent unqualified workers, a decent and educative training center should be established to help the workers at work and mingle in the new society, and there also NGO’s to help link the workers with national authorities. Above all that, laws protecting the workers right should universally guaranteed, so the receiving country, for the sake of human rights, should also ratify the he United Nations Convention on the Protection of the Rights of all Migrant Workers and Member of Their Families.
Monday, November 30, 2009
What Can I do to Create an Environmental-Friendly Society?
Everybody knows that we are living in a global environmental crisis consists of large scale pollution, global warming, poverty, and almost-extinction, or even already-extinction of thousands species of animal. The causes are clear: human’s selfish lifestyle, which ignore the nature laws and the future of their inheritance. Me, as a human, especially a college student, and more specific: a Bandung Institute of Technology student (which said to be the number one university in my country) then definitely have a responsibility to live my life more environmentally friendly and persuade others to do so.
Until now, I’ve done several things to change my past-unhealthy-lifestyle and, although I’m not an environment activist and I’m not joined in any environmental organization, I’ve tried to influence others directly and indirectly to increase their awareness to the issue. The first point, which is about changing my lifestyle, are very simple things to do. For instance, I’m not using AC, reduce consumption of frozen food, choose walk instead of riding a car to go to campus, reduce using of tissue (and substitute it with napkin), using both sides of papers, bring my own mineral water instead of buying mineral water in plastic bottle, live more economic by limiting my expenses, did not waste plastic bag/packaging so that I can use them again, saving electrical energy by turn the lamp, television, laptop, radio tape, power off when not in use, use refillable cartridge printer, refuse brochures, catalogues, and pamphlets that usually given when we strolling at mall or any public places (because I know I wouldn’t be that interesting to its content and the brochures will just adding more garbage to our environment), do my hobby to make scrap books and tiny note books from re-used paper and magazine, regularly donate my used clothes and shoes, and if it is possible, my favorite is to re-design my old clothes to be more unique and up to date.
Now, for the second point, which is about persuade others, I think by consistently showing others that you care about the environment issue and improving your lifestyle, sooner or later people around you will be inspired and hopefully will do the same thing as you do. Besides that, in organization that I joined now (ITB Economic & Capital Market Study and Investment Group), I’m the Co-Manager of IDX Corner division and one of my responsibilities is to manage inventories and our headquarters. When we did the routine room cleaning-up, I always remembered my staff to collect used paper and any other used things. Then, we gave those papers to U-Green (ITB student environmental organization) to be recycled, and now my department student organization is preparing for new student orientation and in the end of the event, we will challenge them to make a social event, and I recommend the committee to widen the perception of ‘social’ to also include environmental event. Another example is supporting the event ‘Earth Hour’ in March 28th 2009 from 08.30-09.30 pm to turn off any electrical source by spread the publication of the issue besides of course turn the power off at that time.
Furthermore, I have some dreams for my society, especially my university. Honestly, I feel so ashamed that my university is still much more far away from ‘Green University’. The trash bin only divided into 2 which are for organic and non-organic garbage, and ironically, I often see wrong kind of garbage dumped in any trash bin. Did the student not understand what the meaning of organic and non-organic? Of course they’d understand. The problems are their lack of awareness and although they’d care, they know that the garbage truck will still mix up the garbage again when they put the garbage to their truck. Another example is the rest rooms and canteens are dirty. I envy US’s school, which I read from the internet that 250 green school projects are slated to begin in Ohio in the next two years, new schools in Chicago will be built green and New Orleans is rebuilding public schools green following the disaster of Hurricane Katrina. Moreover, the curriculum here doesn’t support us to increase our concern to environment issue, I only have 4 credits (from 144 credits that I should take) lessons about environmental education, and those lessons are so theoretic that the students may not absorb the core things about the issue. There have already been a few environmental events but they’re lack of publication, and some are just music event + campaign without any follow up. Although now I can’t do something significant to change that yet, I hope what I’ve done can make a little improvement. I’m dreaming of living and studying in a place where the people have a priority to live healthy and environmentally friendly, where I cannot see garbage dumped in wrong place, clean restrooms and canteens, a lot of trees, and economically using energy. I hope someday ITB can be a Green University and be the good example for the society.
“Whatever you do may seem insignificant but it is most important that you do it”
Dibuat tanggal 8 Maret 2009.
Anggi Maulida. Dinamai Anggi karena ayahnya bernama Angga, dan dinamai Maulida karena lahir pada hari Maulid Nabi. Saya lahir pada tanggal 1 Oktober 1990, yang juga merupakan Hari Kesaktian Pancasila. Kadang saya iri dengan teman-teman yang namanya bagus-bagus, aneh-aneh, dan memiliki arti yang sangat-sangat penuh doa dan harapan (kelihatan banget orang tuanya mikir waktu mau ngasih nama anaknya), sampai-sampai waktu SD saya pernah marah pada Papa saya karena saya bilang nama saya jelek dan ngga meaning. Tapi sekarang saya sadar, walau nama saya sangat simple dan sampai saat ini saya belum menemukan arti dari Anggi (I’ve googled it several times), saya dinamai Anggi karena pasti karena Papa sangat sayang saya dan lahir pada tanggal yang sama dengan Rasulullah merupakan doa tersendiri agar saya diberikan kemuliaan. Bagaimanapun, saya tetap kecewa karena saat saya men-search nama Anggi Maulida di Facebook ada beberapa account dengan nama yang sama.
Sekarang saya hidup bersama sebuah keluarga yang, Alhamdulillah, bahagia. Kenapa sekarang? Karena menurut memori yang masih terekam di kepala saya, my family has been in an unhappy situation. Padahal waktu itu, keadaan ekonomi keluarga kami jauh lebih baik dari sekarang. Kebahagiaan ini datang, menurut saya setelah adik saya yang paling kecil lahir. Saya mempunyai dua orang adik, yang pertama adalah laki-laki dan sekarang berumur hampir 17 tahun sedangkan adik saya yang kedua perempuan dan kini baru berumur hampir 3 tahun. Kedatangan seorang malaikat kecil di keluarga ini sungguh merupakan anugrah yang luar biasa. This shows us that, there’s another mean to buy happiness, not only money.
Saya mulai masuk playgroup umur 2.5 tahun dan sempat TK tiga kali. Selain karena umur saya yang masih kecil sehingga belum boleh masuk SD, rumah saya kerap kali berpindah-pindah sehingga pindah TK juga. Jalan Bali, Antapani, Cikutra, Jalan Sinom, Jalan Mijil, Jalan Jakarta, Cigadung Selatan, Akuntansi no. 16, dan sekarang Akuntansi no.3 adalah sederetan tempat di mana saya pernah tinggal. Buat saya dan keluarga saya, pindah rumah adalah hal yang sangat lumrah. Akan tetapi, keluarga kami tidak pernah tinggal di kota lain selain di Bandung.
Kata Papa dan Mama, waktu kecil saya adalah anak yang penurut dan tidak rewel. Lebih tepatnya ‘nerimo’ kalau kata orang Jawa. Berbeda sekali dengan saya waktu SMP dan SMA ^^. Hal lain yang menjadi ciri khas saya waktu kecil adalah saya senang sekali sepatu merah, apalagi dari bahan patent. Entah berapa pasang red patent shoes yang saya punya ketika masih TK dan SD. Rambut saya panjang dan ikal, tapi ketika naik kelas 2 SD guru saya menyuruh saya memotong rambut saya dan sejak itu rambut saya tidak pernah sepanjang itu lagi.
Mulai kelas 2 SD tiba-tiba (seriously, It was come suddenly) saya mulai menjadi anak yang berprestasi. Mendapat ranking 1 hampir si tiap caturwulan (iya, dulu usumnya cawu—caturwulan) dan sering juara di lomba-lomba internal sekolah maupun diluar. Mulai dari lomba MTQ, busana muslim, pidato, menggambar, dll. Walaupun begitu, saya adalah anak yang cukup menyebalkan. Anak lain bilang saya sombong dan kokolot begog. Tapi untungnya saya masih mempunyai sahabat dekat, kami biasa main berlima : saya, Lysa, Mila, Febi, dan Tika. Hingga kini kami masih berhubungan walau hanya lewat Facebook, kecuali Tika yang sejak lulus SD sudah di luar kota dan tidak pernah ada kabarnya lagi.
Lulus SD, saya berhasil lulus test ke SMP 5 Bandung. Di sana, saya lulus test lagi hingga bisa mengikuti program akselerasi. Di sini, sifat jelek saya makin terasah. Saya jadi makin sombong, makin kokolot begog, dan makin tidak bisa menyesuaikan diri. Kelas kami ditempatkan di lantai 3 di mana tidak ada kelas lain dan kami hanya ber-20. Ditambah lagi saya tidak bisa menyalurkan minat dan bakat saya. Siklus sekolah selama 2 tahun menyebabkan murid akselerasi tidak bisa menjadi pengurus OSIS dan organisasi lainnya, juga sulit untuk ikut les sana sini karena banyak materi yang harus dikejar.
Kehidupan akademis saya cukup baik, walau tidak lagi ranking 1 masih menduduki 3 besar. Namun, ketika UAN saya, teman-teman, dan keluarga agak kaget karena ternyata nilai saya tidak begitu bagus. Akhirnya saya masuk ke SMA 8 Bandung, bukan SMA 3 seperti kebanyakan teman saya yang lain. Nah, disinilah saya merasa Tuhan sangat sayang sama saya. Di SMA 8, saya masuk kelas yang sangat kompak dan penuh orang yang sayang dengan teman-temannya. Di sini, pertama kali dalam hidup saya, saya sadar bahwa saya harus berubah. Teman-teman kelas X-4 itulah yang menyadarkan saya, dan membantu saya untuk berubah sedikit demi sedikit.
Naik kelas 2, orang tua saya meyuruh saya mutasi ke SMA 3 Bandung. Kata mereka, ini demi masa depan, kalau mau masuk ITB susah kalau tidak di SMA 3. Dengan berat hati pada awalnya, saya pun menurut. Saya pindah, sudah menjadi anak yang sedikit lebih baik, dan akhirnya lulus SPMB ke Teknik Industri ITB pada tahun 2007.
Anggi and Her Passion
I love kids, I love fashion, I love many things. Anak-anak dan fashion saya senangi dari dulu hingga sekarang dan tidak pernah berubah. And, the many things, adalah minat saya yang kerap kali berubah dan moody seperti menulis, scrapbooking, membaca, desain, bisnis, dll. Segala minat saya itu walau dalam bentuk yang kecil tetap tercermin di kebiasaan sehari-hari saya saat ini. Hal yang hampir pasti saya lakukan tiap hari adalah blogwalking ke Hot Chocolate and Mint, Cinnamon and Coffee, dan The Crème de La Crop, buka Facebook Levres la Fute Shop (toko online milik saya dan Ocha), corat coret ga jelas, baca majalah, dan main bersama adik kecil saya, Leika.
Mimpi saya adalah bisa menjadi istri yang baik. Itu utamanya. Tapi saya juga ingin menjadi orang kaya. Alhamdulillah kalau suami saya nanti bisa menjadi orang kaya, tapi kita tidak boleh mengandalkan orang lain. Kalau memungkinkan, saya ingin mempunyai bisnis yang besar di bidang fashion sekaligus pernah bekerja di perusahaan-perusahaan besar, hanya untuk mengumpulkan modal dan pengalaman. Saya ingin bekerja di BI atau Unilever. Saya percaya menjadi orang yang berada itu bahagia, mostly bukan dari uang yang kita pakai untuk konsumsi kita sendiri, tapi dari senyum di wajah orang lain karena kita bisa membantu mereka.
Anggi and Her Friends
Saya tidak tahu apakah kemampuan penyesuaian diri saya yang rendah, atau memang saya yang autis, yang menyebabkan saya memiliki pola pertemanan seperti ini. Saya bukan mandiri, tapi saya memang merasa se-ngga apa-apa-itu untuk tidak bersama teman, berbeda dengan karakter beberapa cewek yang justru ke WC aja harus ditemenin. Saya biasa jalan-jalan ke Mall sendiri, belajar sendiri, dll. Saya juga iri melihat teman-teman yang masih akrab dengan teman-teman SMP atau SMAnya. Dengan teman di TI saja saya merasa sebenarnya tidak sedekat itu. Tapi saya sadar sekali kok kalau berteman itu sangat penting dan yang namanya sahabat sangat berarti. Saya hanya tidak punya, dan walaupun iri terhadap yang punya, saya seringkali merasa tidak apa-apa seperti ini. Saya sendiri bukan tipikal orang yang suka main dan nongkrong, jadi kalau syarat persahabatan adalah sering bersama, saya pasti gagal. Saya juga bukan tipe orang yang suka smsan, YMan atau wall-wall an di Facebook, jadi kalau syaratnya sering berkomunikasi, ada kemungkinan besar juga saya gagal. Sialnya lagi, nim saya terpisah sendiri sehingga jarang sekali sekelas dengan teman-teman dekat saya. Jadi makin minim deh interaksi saya dengan mereka. Walau begitu, saya bersyukur karena teman-teman dekat saya sekarang (DOC atau apalah itu) adalah komunitas yang sangat konstruktif. Kebanyakan dari mereka adalah anak rumahan seperti saya, sangat baik hati, pekerja keras, berbakat, dan berambisi mengejar impiannya masing-masing.
Anggi and the Guys
‘Guy things’ juga salah satu hal yang sangat mempengaruhi perkembangan saya hingga sekarang. Pertama kali ditembak cowok, saya masih kelas 1 SD. Saya sendiri baru boleh pacaran ketika kuliah, tapi saya bandel sehingga pacaran pertama kali waktu kelas 1 SMA, dan karena saya hanya ingin coba-coba saja, dan ternyata pacaran tidak seasik itu, saya memutuskan mantan pertama saya pada hari ke 17 pacaran. Barulah mulai pacar ke 2 hingga sekarang, saya cukup serius walaupun saya seringkali menjadi pacar yang sangat merepotkan dan menyebalkan. Banyak teman yang menyebut saya play girl karena sering dekat dengan beberapa cowok sekaligus (saya telah berjanji akan berubah), tapi begitu berpacaran, saya adalah orang yang cukup setia.
Masing-masing dari mantan saya left their own traces. Mereka adalah orang-orang hebat yang mengajarkan banyak hal baik pada saya dan mereka berusaha untuk mengubah saya. Mereka adalah tipikal family-man yang walaupun super sibuk tetap mengutamakan keluarganya. Mereka juga tipikal social-man yang sangat dermawan. Kami pun masih berteman hingga sekarang , and sometimes share our stories. Hanya ada 1 mantan yang tidak begitu, dan saya biarkan tetap begitu karena hati saya tidak sepenuhnya bisa memaafkan dia.
Pacar saya yang sekarang berbeda 180o dengan mantan-mantan saya, but I can say that he is the most loving person I’ve ever met. Dia bukan tipe cowok impian saya, at all, tapi dia hadiah ulang tahun saya dari Allah yang paling indah. Both of us harus bekerja keras dalam hubungan ini tapi saya sangat bahagia, dan begitu pula yang saya lihat pada dirinya. Saya tahu saya tidak punya apa-apa, tapi dengan ketidakpunyaan ini ternyata saya masih bisa membahagiakan seseorang. Dengan ketidakpunyaan ini pula, he still adores me so much. Saya tidak tahu jodoh saya ada di mana, mungkin dia, mungkin juga bukan. Tapi jika dia orangnya, semoga Allah menjaganya untuk saya dan sebaliknya.
Masa kuliah adalah masa yang paling membentuk diri saya yang stable. Saya tahu dan sudah bisa menerima apa adanya diri saya sendiri yang menyebalkan, pacar yang bukan tipe cowok impian, keluarga yang agak keras dan bukan orang kaya, dan teman dekat yang kadang ngga dekat-dekat amat. Anggi yang sekarang, menurut saya sendiri, tetap anggi yang menyebalkan, gampang menangis, pemberani, sayang keluarga, gemar mencari uang, dan berkomitmen. Saya bangga akan diri saya sendiri, saya bangga akan keluarga saya, saya bangga akan pacar saya, saya bangga akan teman-teman saya, dan saya bangga akan lingkungan saya. Tuhan baik sama saya dan karena itu, saya harus berusaha menjadi orang, anak, kakak, pacar, teman, dan mahasiswi yang lebih baik. Aamiin.
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